We (millennials and the previous generations) have been taught from early age that marriage, family and kids are the ultimate goals in life. No matter how successful you are professionally, you need a happy family to be accomplished. However as the world is taking new strides everyday, the perception about "accomplishment" is changing.
Call me old fashioned, but I feel that there is no "grey area" in a marriage. You are either 100% in or fully out. You can't love or commit to more than one person at a time. And using it as a weapon for immigration is disgustingly low because this is making the lives of real married couples difficult. The number of documents required for visa and all get annoying and so does the process. Our parents and their generation didn't even get their their marriage registered, yet they have been together for about 40 years. Where has this commitment gone?
Is marriage still a pious institution? Or is it just a fancy facade?
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ReplyDeleteIt can be both depending on what one wants from it. Although like you, the 'practical' arrangements aren't acceptable to me.
ReplyDeleteI have many stories from my own community on migration to Canada in pretext of marriage, I agree that today many have made it a tool of convenience or pragmatic materialism, but for many like us, marriage is a blessing. I would like to embed the same in my child.
ReplyDeleteYeah, people think differently now-a-days. More than having a family, they look for opportunities that will benefit them, mostly monetarily, or perhaps peace of mind. Sad state of the world. And, divorce rates are slowly but surely increasing in India, too.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is an institution, it is people who give it bad name. It is like nuclear energy, it can treat disease, it can generate electricity at the same time in the wrong hand can devastate the world. Those who use marriage for wrong goals are not right, neither it is correct to disparage marriage because people misuse it for personal gains. This is not to undermine challenges in today's society. Boy and girl may be ambitious, may be working in high pressure jobs, it is likely they may not have time for each other and marriage falls apart. So it is important to look before you take the leap.
ReplyDeleteThis is definitely a topic worth discussing. Gone are the days when marriage was the end goal of a happily ever after in a romance book. Now, its often the start of a mystery /thriller Netflix show. It tells so much about what our society priorities now. Foreign citizenship by hook or crook. Or in this case the Varmala 🙄
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