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Findings from the 36 years of my life

by - August 17, 2024

 

I completed 36 years of my existence on this earth this June end. While my blog is all about happy things and I pro actively try to keep everything on a positive note, sometimes I feel that I shouldn't be lying. Actually I was listening to a podcast by a keynote speaker (Sina Port, if you are interested) and she  emphasised on the fact that as a content creator, we should be "honest" to our audience. Because that is how our audience gets connected to us. While I, myself, don't like consuming too much "relatable content", like the struggles of motherhood and marriage. This is because personally I think that if I am spending my time on screen, it would rather be something that inspires me and not make me wail further. And secondly, a mom influencer whom I really admire (Brooke Raybould) had mentioned a number of time that watching such kind of content has scientifically proven to demotivate us and hence not conducive to our growth.



Don't get me wrong. I am forced to watch such content+ cringe ones (couple humour and tiffs with in laws et al) from time to time via the endless reels that my friends forward to me. Although they never "like" any post of mine; which is a different context altogether, which I am sure we all creators would be able to relate. 



Cutting to the chase, why I started rambling in the very first place was to rant out my findings from my 36 years of breathing and learning on this planet. I have been counselling people since I was very young (high school) and hence it's the favourite part of my medical practice. As I became professionally skilled, my counselling became of course more result oriented and effective, however I haven't been able to implement it on myself. That's understandable because even a shrink has a shrink. However I haven't reached out to any professional help till now because I never got the opportunity to. So long story short, I have diagnosed myself as having a mid life crisis.



Most people with emotions ( not those who are on auto pilot mode like my father, husband, etc) go through such crisis at one point of time or another. My struggles have been multiplying over the years: managing household single handedly (because it's a patriarchal society and husband is too busy with his career), demands of growing children, my struggle with forever increasing weight and dissatisfaction with my profession(s). Maybe this is just a phase (for more than 6 years if I recall) or maybe life is going to remain like this. Maybe I will learn to deal with my crises in a better manner over time or maybe I will lose my sh*t at the end of the day. Sometimes the future looks very bleak. However I have managed to finally find the purpose of my life.





I had been struggling with my ultimate goal for quite sometime but thankfully I have realised that the only thing that would keep me going are my two girls. Their proper upbringing and nurturing them into kind, happy human beings is the ultimate purpose of my life. 



There I have said it. Putting these thoughts out in the world so that I can hold myself accountable. Wow this felt great! Just like good old blogging days where we used to share our joys and sorrows with our readers. 




PS My ultimate finding has been that social media is a myth, the greatest facade. Never compare your life with someone else's SM image nor judge anyone by their feed. That's all for today.


 This post was created for the Blogaberry Creative (Monthly) Challenge.

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8 comments

  1. As a content creator myself, I try to be as honest as possible with my audiences. I imagine my daughter going through my posts someday, or my friends who know me closely. I cannot fake it.

    As a counsellor yourself, please try and counsel yourself about what's bothering you. Maybe shrinks have shrinks but it would be better for you and your family if you implement your couseling on yourself first. All the best, darling! More power to you!

    PS: I never watch any video sent to me. Except for a reason like review, specific information, etc. Sender has to send me why they are sending me a video, only then will I open it. Friends or family! Hahahaha!

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  2. I am so glad you wrote this; it feels real and inspiring to find someone battling it out. That said I think, we women go through this phase more painfully, taking care of the home single-handedly is a consuming process, I just know that it becomes slightly easier when the kids grow up and can manage some of their tasks but then you have some new sets of problems.I find friends and self-care to be very helpful. That lesson in the end was something we need to remember!

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  3. Your honest reflection on turning 36 is both raw and relatable. I appreciate your candidness about facing a mid-life crisis and how you’ve found purpose in raising your daughters. Your insights on social media and the pressures it creates resonate deeply. Sharing this vulnerability truly connects with your audience, and I admire your courage in doing so. Keep being authentic!

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  4. Being authentic is like turning your eyes to yourself when you discover the drawbacks, the shortcomings, the anxiety and the frustrations. It is uncomfortable to turn it out to your readers. But then the good thing is, you realise there is a common thread in all of us, whether one is an influencer or not and in that, we find solidarity with the rest.
    Some of us go through deeper problems; being accurate and honest about them is often uncomfortable, but then we look for purpose and future.
    Your observation about social media is accurate, but it tempts us to believe in them.

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  5. During a midlife crisis, it's important that we prioritize our health and well-being. This may include adopting healthy habits such as getting enough sleep , regular exercise, and a balanced diet.

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  6. Thank you for sharing this, during the life changing phase being true to yourself is so important. Not to impress anyone but to be true to what makes you happy.

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  7. I appreciate this so much, Mandira. Thanks for your honesty in this social media and digital world where everyone wants to share only the best bits about their life. Glad you realized your purpose as well and hope you're able to sail through your mid life crisis with ease and with the right counsel.

    P.S: Btw, I just loved your shoes. I couldn't take my eyes off them and scrolled through the photographs twice to gawk at them multiple times

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  8. Happy birthday, dear. I'm glad you chose this time to open up about yourself. It requires courage but I' sure it also makes you at ease. Since you are in the medical field and a counselor yourself, you will be in the best position to understand he way forward. I can say that I've admired your posts and always been at wow at how much you're able to travel...so there are many like me (I'm sure) who admire you and look upto you. Stay strong girl....

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